Interesting and meaningful conversation I found:
“James, I want to be more successful!” a man I’d never met told me over the phone. “Can you help me?”
“Sure,” I said. “Where are you already successful?”
“I’m not! That’s why I need your help!”
“Okay, cool,” I answered. “Now, tell me, where are you already successful?”
“James! You’re not listening to me!” he wailed. “The reason I’m calling you is because I need to be successful and I’m not.”
“Interesting,” I said. “How’s your health right now?’
“Well, I’ve never been more fit in my entire life,” he answered.
“How’s your relationship right now?” I asked.
“My wife and I just celebrated our twenty-year anniversary. She’s the best. Our eldest daughter just got into Brown.”
“So, fit, healthy, and in a loving connected relationship with happy kids?” I asked.
“Yes, and I can see where you’re going with this, James. But my buddy down the street is making ten times more money than I am and I can’t figure out why. He just bought my brand-new dream car, a BMW, and it’s making me nuts!”
“That’s really terrific for him,” I said. “But how’s his health?”
“Um, he had a heart attack last year and nearly died.”
“Interesting,” I said. “How is his relationship?”
“He just went through a nasty divorce. He and his ex are fighting over custody.”
“Interesting. So, who's more successful?” I asked him.